your daily rock : be a learner, not a judge.

When you come to a place of discomfort, a place of not-knowing, you have a choice: You can either learn in that moment, or you can judge. But you can’t do both, so you have to choose. And when you feel uncomfortable, at an “edge,” you will inevitably judge yourself first:  “I’m an idiot–everybody else has this figured out” or “I can’t believe I said that.” And then you judge others: “She’s an idiot–how could she not know that?” “Did you hear what he said?” Edges are beautiful places, if we can notice our judging (it’s our judging that indicates we’re at an edge, after all) and focus on learning instead. Most of the time, the learning is simply in noticing what we notice about what we do at an edge. Do we jump over the edge? Do we run away? Do we disengage? Do we sabotage? Can we answer those questions without judging ourselves? Every response is right–if we can notice what we notice about what we do at the edge. Be a learner, not a judge.  Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : be worthy of your trust

Trust is like a bank account. It accrues over time, often slowly and carefully, and when we break a trust–to ourselves or to others–it depletes the account. And then it can take a very long time to rebuild that trust account. Cherish that account. Protect it. Be worthy of your trust, and that of others. And remember, too, that sometimes trust takes a leap of faith:  As Ernest Hemingway said, “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” Are you trustworthy?  Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : celebrate with wild abandon!

If you look for them, there are things to celebrate wildly every single day. In our house, we sometimes run out of vital supplies like toilet paper, light bulbs, and Häagen Dazs Dulce de Leche ice cream, but 365 days a year you can be sure of finding a rather impressive supply of birthday candles on hand for impromptu celebrations. You lived through the swim test? Your pancakes tomorrow morning will come to you in a blaze of glory. Today you’re celebrating your half birthday? Get ready for a half-cake after dinner. It’s the first snow of the season, National Light Bulb Day, new haircut day, leap year? Lighted cupcakes will no doubt line the floor from your bedroom to the dining table tomorrow morning. You survived your evil 5th grade teacher who shall remain nameless? How about Cheerios with candles stuck through them for breakfast? You learned to tie your shoes? You fell off your horse and got back on? You read a 1,600 page book? You learned to cover your mouth when you cough? There are candles in your immediate future. Everyday, ordinary, daily life should be a rambunctious celebration, a focus on the positive, a paean to possibility and glee. Stock up on birthday candles. Use them with wild abandon. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...