your daily rock : you belong

Years ago when I was working for a nonprofit organization in Washington, D.C., I reported directly to the CEO, but wasn’t a Vice President like all his other direct reports. I wasn’t a VP, and I wasn’t even a Director, at the time. A new CEO was brought on board one fall and all his direct reports were asked to meet with him. And so I went, feeling like a young fish out of water amidst all the Vice Presidents. At one point, the CEO announced he wanted to talk about performance evaluations for the staff, and I excused myself, feeling it was not my place to be in on those conversations. The CEO called me into his office the next day and asked why I left. “I, uh, well, I didn’t really think it was any of my business to talk about performance evaluations since I’m not a department head.” He looked at me, and then he spoke: “Don’t ever take yourself out of the game, Patti. You stay there until someone asks you to leave. You belong there and if anyone has a problem with it, then respond to that, but don’t discount yourself first.” That had a big impact on me, and still does. It shows up in many ways: “They won’t like my writing, so I won’t even submit anything.” “I have no business trying out for that part.” We all do it. We discount ourselves before anyone else has a chance to. You belong. Don’t take yourself out of the game. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot,...

your daily rock : plant the seed

Tess and I planted seeds this spring: peas, radishes, limas, squash, tomatoes, basil, kale, arugula, poppies, sunflowers, and cone flowers. We planted them in faith that some of those seeds might sprout. We planted them long before they would sprout. Watered them while they did their invisible magic. Some sprouted and some didn’t. We march out back in the afternoon and eat peas off the vine. And what I know, because a gardener friend told me, is that gardening is about putting a ten cent plant in a ten dollar hole. It’s the hole, the soil, the preparation that counts, and then the leap of faith. Go ahead. Prepare the soil. Plant the seed. You might not know for a long time what will emerge. Until you do. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : happy is a choice

We don’t choose our circumstances a lot of the time. But we choose how we are in those circumstances. I recognize that “happy is a choice” simplifies the issue. For anyone living with depression, for example, it’s not true or easy. But for many people, it is a choice. We are the storytellers: we can tell the story we want to live into. Choose happy today. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : love without reservation

Yes, I know what you’re thinking: “I can’t or won’t really love without reservation, because I’ve been hurt before.” We all have. We all have beautiful scars. The question is whether we let someone else determine our future, whether we let past hurt determine future joy, whether we let yesterday take up too much space in today. Open your heart. Love without reservation. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...