your daily rock : what would love do?

When I get irritated or “hooked” by someone else’s drama (or my own), this is the question I ask myself: What would love do? It is sometimes hard to remember to ask it. Or perhaps we have to get through all the drama first, and then we can ask it. Maybe we just need to be heard first, or vent first, and then we can respond from a place of love. In moments of great irritation and hurt and anger, or even when we are being hypercritical about ourselves, the question that can change everything is this one: What would love do? I think it would give up being right in the service of being kind. It would step away from righteous and choose satisfied, and even sated. It might even reach out to people who have been unkind. Yes, it would. I think it would likely give away more than it takes. More than likely. It would be generous. It seems possible that love would trump convenience. It would go out of its way. Love would tell the truth in a way that could be heard and in a way that acknowledges that my truth is not necessarily yours. It might even leave out the parts that are hurtful and unnecessary. Yes, I think it would. Love would buoy, not bury. It would open, not close. It would reach toward, not away from. It would move into, not push against. It would create, not collapse. It would never ridicule. Not a neighbor, a stranger, a friend, or the people of Walmart. I’m pretty sure love would hurt sometimes....

thinking thursday.

MIND How to get a job. “They (employers) just want to know one thing: Can you add value?” Sounds to me like college is becoming increasingly irrelevant unless some changes are made either to the job market or the educational system. These are extraordinary visions by a 14-year-old. Or by an any-year-old. I started watching this TED talk about why MoMA acquired Pac-Man because I thought it would be of interest to my design student and gamer daughter, Emma. And then I got hooked. There is so much here: high and low art, the intersectionality of art and culture, and a fantastic delivery of many, many ideas. What is the cure for a distracted mind? “‘What I like so much about this assignment is that it goes right to the heart of the belief that you’ll feel bored if you pay attention to one thing for so long,’ said Daniel Willingham, a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia. ‘A lot of time when we turn away from things, we’re missing stuff that will give us a richer understanding of the world.'” BODY ROCK ON, I dream of Jeannie (at 78)! ROCK ON! How to pick a superstar watermelon! Yes! A plethora of vegetarian and vegan grilled cheese sandwiches for the win! In the U.S., we just celebrated Memorial Day. I’m not sure many of us know its origin. SOUL I think it’s time for me to do The Work again on a situation I haven’t really ever fully resolved. Here’s one good example of using it. WORD “Self-righteousness is much like a spiritual egocentricity. It constitutes a secular...

your daily rock : trust the angels

I am convinced we have angels all around us all the time. They just don’t look like angels. They look like librarians and baristas. They look like small children seeing a rainbow for the first time. They look like the man you won’t look at who is begging in the median of the road. They look like grocery baggers and CEOs and grandmothers. They sometimes look like people you don’t like very much. They look like you. And me. And we can trust in each other. Calling all angels. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : serendipity

My daughter, Tess, has a tough time with expectations and transitions. It’s a hallmark of some kids with Asperger’s, and now that I understand it, I can help her with it, but when I didn’t realize, things were sometimes very tough. If we said we were going to the garden after school, she expected to go, even if it was storming. If plans changed for any reason, she would respond with what looked like rage. Our neighbor and autism expert, Catherine Faherty, suggested we create a sheet or little booklet with three columns: What We Expect to Do Today / Did We Do That? (check Yes or No) / Serendipity That last column was the magic: Serendipity. What fantastic thing happened even though you weren’t able to do the thing you expected to do? Tess would fill out those forms with great passion, and together we would discover that even if it was storming and we couldn’t go to the garden, there was magic to be had. Serendipity means the accident of finding something good or useful while not specifically searching for it. English author Horace Walpole coined the word serendipity, by which he meant making discoveries, by accidents and sagacity, of things which you are not in quest of…. Be open to finding good, making discoveries, loving the accidents that sometimes take you in a different direction. Love,       (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...