your daily rock : become someone you respect

Eve Ensler has said, “I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense.” Do you respect yourself? Are you okay with being different, with your own particular aliveness? At lunchtime every day, ask yourself this question: Am I becoming someone I respect? If yes, carry on. If no, change that. Love,   (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : dance more!

Feel self conscious about dancing? Me, too. It didn’t used to be that way. Every Friday night in high school, I was on the dance floor with my friend Steve, doing elaborate disco moves (stop laughing). I haven’t danced like that–with abandon and joy and passion–in years. Decades. So I’m heeding this rock. Self conscious? Do it anyway. In private, if need be. Without mirrors, if you must. Just move your body. Put on music you love and move. Move. No other experience needed. No disco balls, no dance floor, just you in your bathroom or bedroom swaying (or moving more dramatically if you’re up to it). Music is elemental: Earth, Water, Air, Fire–and Music. It grounds us to the earth and lifts us up to the sky. It heats us and satisfies our thirst, music does. The corollary to music is movement. It, too, grounds us, lifts us, heats us, and satisfies us. Move today. With music. Call it dance, or not. Just move. Love,   (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : forget about the audience

Make a strong offer without trying to please the audience, or amuse them, or get them to like you, or influence their response to you. Detach from investing in what other people think–you can never control that anyway. Nothing you do can really control that. Instead, focus on what you can control: your offer, your art, your life. Paulo Coelho has written, “I write from my soul. This is the reason that critics don’t hurt me, because it is me. If it was not me, if I was pretending to be someone else, then this could unbalance my world, but I know who I am.” Know who you are. Love,   (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : listen to the message

We get so many messages. From our bodies, from our surroundings, from our intuition, from our places of deepest knowing. We know. And yet we spend so much time denying that we know, denying that we need to reconsider or flee or embrace–whatever the message is, we shut it down. It’s time to tune in to those messages. To hear, not merely listen, because as G.K. Chesteron said, “There’s a lot of difference between listening and hearing.” What messages are you getting? About that volunteer opportunity or that new job–or about what your children are trying to tell you when they say, “Listen, Mama, listen!” Where do you hear those messages in your body? Today, listen to the messages. Heed them. Love,   (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...

your daily rock : turn around and look

You know those iconic photographs so many of us recognize? Those scenes from shared human history that are seared into our collective memories? The flag-raising at Iwo Jima, the young man in front of the tank at Tiananmen Square, the execution of Nguyen Van Lém by Nguyen Ngoc Loan during the Vietnam war, and so many more. My husband, John, is always more interested in turning around to look at the watchers, the scene behind the camera. I love that about him. And I have finally learned that from him. On a business trip a few years ago, I stood on the balcony of my hotel room and took photos of a spectacular Florida sunset. Only when I turned to go back into the room did I realize that the more beautiful vision was behind me, the big puffy clouds onto which the sunset was reflected as onto a screen. There is something more than what we see. Turn around, look. Love,   (These beautifully painted rocks are created by Kim Mailhot, aka The Rock...