Meta’s story touched many people. Her too-young death and the extraordinary leave-taking given to her by her family and friends brought lessons and insights to me, to many.
On February 25th at 5pm EST, her family and friends will gather in the mountains to release a dove in memory of Meta and in celebration of her 21st birthday, which will be the next day.
I’ll be too far from home to join them, but have committed to Meta’s mother, Mary Anne, that I will light a candle at that same time, to send energy to them all – and to the world – in Meta’s memory. Please join me if you can in memorializing Meta and holding her family in peace and in love at 5pm EST on Sunday, February 25th. Mark your calendar, join me.
If you’d like to send a birthday greeting to Meta, leave a comment; I’ll gather them all and send them to her family.
It feels unthinkable to imagine Mary Anne’s grief over the past few months; I cannot approximate it, I won’t even try. But like the penguin movie I referenced in that essay about Meta, life just keeps coming at us. And sometimes, dear friends, even though I try to find meaning and sense in day-to-day life, sometimes – like right now – I’m left without a reason for things. I don’t know why. I despair sometimes at a larger sense, though I feel certain there is one, even if it is only in me, and not out there somewhere. But I’m digging deep today to make sense of the news I received recently: Meta’s mom, Mary Anne, has been diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer.
I believe in the power of intention and attention and hope you will keep Mary Anne lifted up in your thoughts as she undergoes chemotherapy in her journey back to health. It is hard to reconcile so much pain and suffering being focused on one family; they need all our prayers and good wishes. They deserve better. Raise them up. Release a dove in your heart for Mary Anne and her guardian angel, her little penguin Meta.
In an email from Mary Anne telling me gently of her diagnosis, she wrote "And here is the beautiful thing I want to tell you: every single person I have encountered so far in the medical or financial office world has been absolutely open hearted, kind, considerate and honest with me. I feel like Meta is on my left side (as usual, in so many pictures and memories of her she is hanging on, hugging on my left) I have even given some of the people involved her ‘Ambassador of Love’ card. Where this story is going I don’t know; I am scared but also peaceful somehow." I wrote her back: "please know that I’m thinking of you and that no matter what happens, you have an angel on your left side. and above you. and all around you."
This is just too damned much pain for one family to bear.
If you pray, or light candles, or modazz things–whatever your tradition of hope is–please keep her in your heart these next days. I so believe in the soul and generous spirit of those of you who read 37days. I think we can do great things together. Let’s start here.
5pm EST on Sunday, February 25th. Release a dove for Meta…and for Mary Anne. Mark your calendar, join me from wherever you are in the world. Let’s let Mary Anne know we remember Meta, and that we hold her up in love to triumph over cancer.
PS – Mary Anne is uninsured, like so many people in this country, and has been hit with medical costs she cannot begin to bear. If you can send even $5.00 to help, it will add up. Send donations or cards (checks payable to: Mary Anne Bowers) to: The Circle Project, P.O. Box 18323, Asheville, NC 28814 and I’ll get them to her